You are your harshest critic. You don't make time to care for yourself or for the projects and activities that you like the most (like exercising or supporting causes close to your heart. You go out of your way to say 'yes' to other people and accommodate their needs even when it interferes with you getting your own work/life done. You spend time on 'small wins'(in order to feel good when people say 'thanks, you're a great person') instead of putting effort into your 'big picture' that will allow you to finally feel secure and satisfied. You monitor and criticize yourself for things you said or did, or didn't say. You feel that you are not 'thick skinned' enough, you take things personally Too often you hide, or don't 'put yourself out there' in situations because you are worried about the unfavorable reaction you might get from others. You freeze when it comes to making presentations, 'sales calls' you know you need to make. You feel like you are putting out a lot of effort out but you are not getting the rewards that you'd like to get from all your efforts You accept conditions of overwhelm in your work life and don't try to make changes at the underlying causes. Tolerating (over time) people who work for you who are not up to your standards is an example of this. You procrastinate a lot You waste more time than you'd like You are a 'doer“ busy doing things all the time but infrequently have a sense of satisfaction that what you are doing makes your life meaningful. You are productive but don't necessarily feel effective. You often feel depleted in your current situation -- you are over-extended. You would like to act in ways that are more authentic to you, rather than playing a role for important others More often than you’d like you have the belief that you are “not enough”, that you “are wrong”, that you “can’t” do or get what you want, or that you “should” be acting differently. You'd send an email rather than making the phone call, if you think the interaction will be difficult or you'll feel intimidated You are successful on the outside but don't feel confident on the inside You don't speak your good ideas in meetings You are really good at what you do but not have the revenue you seek. You sell yourself short You know you are not living up to your potential. You talk to yourself in 'shoulds' You lose time and focus in your life when you are being reactive to situations. You spend time on minutiae instead of big picture priorities You stay in your comfort zone, don't volunteer for stretch assignments You focus on what you haven't yet achieved rather than feel good about what you have. You haven't made changes because you are waiting for the answer to come to you or for someone else to advise you on next steps You have stress responses such as physical symptoms that you have not tended to. You don't trust your intuition. You know that you can be more confident and more effective in your career situation but can't quite put your finger on what its going to take to get there. You are more reactive to situations than you would like to be. At work, if you are displeased with what someone said towards you or with how you did in a meeting, you will become distracted and lose your focus for several minutes or several hours (and maybe even lose sleep over it). There is at least one person in your professional or personal life who really makes you feel disempowered (e.g., spouse, boss, colleague, parent, family member); you take their behavior personally and it makes you feel bad about yourself or helpless to change the situation. You don't feel that you are in control of your life, you have a vague idea of how you would like your work-life balance to look, and how you would like to feel more connected with other people, but it feels elusive to you how to get there. You know that you are not in the right job situation (or relationship situation) and on some level you feel miserable about it - but you scare yourself into fearing you won't be able to get all the trade-offs you want, or you worry about making a mistake, so you don't decide at all. You stay burrowed in your comfort zone. You take responsibility or blame for situations that you don't need to or you apologize unnecessarily; doing this makes you feel one down or bad about yourself. You don’t set limits with others in the way you know you should – and you end up paying for it. When you start to get excited at the idea of what your career life could be like in just a few months, immediately that voice pops up: 'I don't have what it takes for the career I REALLY want', 'It will never happen', or 'I don't feel deserving of that kind of satisfaction, etc.' You feel that you have 'lost your groove'. There was a time in your life when you felt more on 'top of your game' and you are not feeling that currently. You'd like to get it back. You want to make a career move but block yourself from taking action because you think 'I don't have the right ___' (experience, contacts, etc.) . You are constantly living under the pressure of trying to control things and other people; it makes you crzay if you can't control situations. Your Name:
