The ONLY resolution you ever need to make
There is one “master” resolution. Without it all your other resolutions cannot be carried out. The one ability you want to resolve to strengthen is Self Trust.
Self-trust is relying upon your inner resources (i.e. emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual) to achieve desired success and fulfillment. It enables you to stay steady and expand what you CAN control in this fast-changing world, rather than try in futility to change market conditions or other people.
Self trust is about believing in yourself, that your efforts are worthwhile and will help you progress towards the happiness and results you seek.
Self trust is about your ability to manage yourself, so that when it comes time to do the behavior you’ve said is healthy or constructive for you, you can get yourself to do it.
Self trust is about viewing yourself as worth treating well, that you are deserving of having the results you are pursuing. This comes from seeing yourself as others see you, not through filters of self judgment.
You judge yourself because you think you will only be loveable to others or secure in your career if you live up to an ideal of perfection. Therefore you always compare yourself to this ideal, setting yourself up to fall short and beat yourself up.
Everyone, no matter who you are, has felt crunched in the past year or so. Some of us are feeling overwhelmed by the stresses; others of us are feeling resilient, knowing we will land on our feet no matter what. Resilient people are energized and take action everyday to create opportunities and keep their relationships strong. Self trust is a learned skill and key factor that determines how you will navigate through turbulent times.
How do you rate yourself on a 1-10 scale of Self Trust? What is your Resolution for how Self Trusting you want to be in 2010 and the upcoming decade?
1) Build self trust by spending time to review your year/your decade and making peace with it in yourself. Here are some questions you can use to guide your review:
- What are the trends?
- In what ways are you proud of how you have grown, and contributed?
- What are the behaviors and attitudes that continue to give you justification to beat yourself up?
- What pledge do you make to yourself to change these behaviors? Why will your efforts to change this behavior be different this time? What will happen if you don’t make these self corrections? What will be possible for you if you do? What accountability will you build in?
- Where can you accept yourself more and find workarounds for the things that are challenging for you?
- Where can you accept the people you are close to even more, so that you no longer are disappointed and angered by the behaviors they repeat?
2) Check out this video I made (its old, we’ll all laugh at how different I look now!) It gives you a tool that will help you quickly build trust in yourself.
